I have a few things I do for pacing myself and keeping myself motivated for very long-term quests.
One I call "looking at my feet." It is thinking of whatever I'm doing as looking down at my feet ans sliding my foot in some direction or the other, then moving the other foot so that I'm standing feet together again in the new position. Many people call this a "baby step." I find the term insulting, both because it ignores the difficulty of any movement at all sometimes AND the fact that I'm an adult: small steps have always made up the steps for getting something done.
You didn't learn how to read or drive a car in one fell swoop! Expecting yourself to change emotionally or your habits in one step is unrealistic and unreasonable. Why would I give myself time/grace to learn to do things like drive a car, read, learn a job, a foreign language but not do the same when I'm trying to change who I am? Chaning who I am usually means fighting myself -- much harder than just learning a bunch of new words or movements.
The second is celebrating my movement -- NOT the distance to the goal,but the distance from where I started. For a long time, I thought I had to be perfect to be merely adequeate. The distance between where I was and wanted to be just gave me more reasons to beat myself up. But when I look at where I was? Wow. I've done a lot and it was hard!
The third piece of this is dealing with failures. You'll have them. We all do. A failure isn't because you're "wrong." It's because you're learning and learning includes learning what doesn't work. When you "fail," you're really succeeding, because you're learning what doesn't work -- and that's just as valuable as doing what does!
Last edited by Judi; 10-13-2015 at 07:34 AM.
Hi Matt: I need a quest to win against my bad guys: my landlord's who are trying to evict me after 12 years. I am disabled and 65 but I am smart and am having allies arise in a lot of places but I would like to make this a quest, to defeat my slumlords, totally. Ideas? How to link? Many thanks, Ellen the Courageous
Originally Posted by Matt Valiant
New to the hero world
Can I use your Fear it/Face it icon?
I like the idea of using icons and creating my own.
Do you have tips for me in using them?
Or do you have a stock of them? My challenge is beating anxiety, because is paralizes me. That way I destroy good chances that come my way.